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Sunday, January 31st, 2010Crazy People Are People
Sunday, January 31st, 2010It spent something like eight months on our DVR, dodging deletion, but this weekend, with the wife and kid out of town, and USA's Jason Bourne-a-Thon behind me, I finally watched Toddlers and Tiaras, the TLC docurealitywhatever about baby beauty pageants.
At least I tried. I gave up after about 20 fast-forwarding minutes. What a slapdash wreck American TV is, and what depressing narcissists we are.
Fortunately, this 1:00 clip from The Posters Came from the Walls, the incredible-looking documentary by the British artist Jeremy Deller and music video director Nick Abraham about obsessive Depeche Mode fans, cleared my head. Now I feel like a bright, crisp winter morning with a little kid dressed as Dave Gahan walking around me.
Official site: The Posters Came From The Walls [and-a-half]
About the project: A Curious Faith [british film institute]
Yow, Boarding House By Roger Ballen
Sunday, January 31st, 2010
Roger Ballen is an American-born artist working in Johannesburg. I missed "Boarding House," his show at Gagosian last fall, and after reading my friend Brian's review for Artforum, I can't tell if I'm bummed or relieved:
The images were made in collaboration with the residents of a Johannesburg warehouse that, from Ballen's description, seems like a miniature shantytown--a warren of tiny rooms that for decades has been its own ecosystem. There, some of society's marginalized figures (a few labor in nearby mines, although many are entirely destitute) scratch out an existence of minimal comfort, their small dwellings divided not by solid walls but by rugs, sheet metal, and other provisional materials.In this case, collaboration means staging, and the residents doing the wall drawings.
Roger Ballen, "Boarding House," through Dec. 23, 2009 on Madison [gagosian via briansholis.com]
How to Get People to Talk to You
Sunday, January 31st, 2010
by The Howitzer
I like talking about you, you, you, you usually. But, occasionally I want to talk about me. – Toby Keith
I heard one of my favorite country songs again a couple of days ago about a self-centered conversationalist. You know the type! Every conversation is about them. Take my friend Freddy (not their real name). A 20-minute conversation with them consists of 19 minutes of listening and 1 minute of escaping. Heaven forbid that I might have had something to say especially since I made the call. But, Freddy doesn’t care. Freddy thinks that everyone was given 2 ears to listen to their every problem in life. Now don’t get me wrong, I like Freddy and I like talking Freddy, Freddy, Freddy, Freddy usually. But, occasionally I walk to talk about me.
“Most of us are so wrapped up in our own stuff that we don’t want to mess around with the crap that people all around us are dealing with.”
I don’t think that I am the only one who feels that way (am I ?) In fact, I am sure that I am not the only one that is going through some major challenges that they would like to work through with a friend. That is if they could find someone who would engage with them in and around their concerns. But most of us are so wrapped up in our own stuff that we don’t want to mess around with the crap that people all around us are dealing with. With all the stuff that is going on in our culture we may be in a very unique place to build friendships, encourage someone else and have a real ministry in the lives of others. But to do so you have to become a Master Question Asker. Sometimes, to be in a place of influence you just need to listen to someone else instead of always hogging the spotlight in your conversations.
Consider my friend John (that is his real name). John is a pastor and it is kind of his job to make sure everybody is doing ok. As a result, he asks a lot of questions (how else would he find out). The thing I like about John is that I think he is really interested in my answers. Contrasted to Freddy who ask questions to transition into another personal expose. I enjoy being the topic of conversation occasionally. I like being able to actually communicate my opinion on a topic or share about a real concern of mine. I am probably your typical guy who doesn’t really know how I feel about a topic till I start sounding it out. Self-discovery and self-revelation spills out a sentence at a time.
What am I trying to say?
- True friendship is two ways. If one person dominates the conversation all the time you got trouble.
- True friends ask as many questions as answer questions. People love answering sincere questions about themselves, their opinions and their concerns.
- If you a not a good question askers you are probably not a good friend or at least your friends probably don’t think you value them.
- People will put up with Freddy-types for a while but will distance themselves over time. They reason they are called Fast-Freddy is that they lose their friends quickly.
The Scripture says that the heart of man is like a deep well, but a man of understanding draws out our friends and helps them reveal great insights from their inner selves. But you have to ask great questions, listen well and be genuinely interested. Are you a John or a Freddy? I want to be a John. And funny enough, John actually has people ask him questions in return. He who waters others will himself be watered. Well, sometimes!
Photo by shareski
DT Friday Freakout: Weekend WTF Edition
Sunday, January 31st, 2010What's the hype from the worlds of science, medicine, safety, and parenting this week?
- British newspapers totally make up scientific stories and then try to pass them off as the research findings of whatever hapless scientist is unlucky enough to get mentioned in the article. Seriously, it happened to the "princess effect" guy. Totally made up. [psychologytoday]
- British doctors totally make up scientific data and then try to pass them off as research findings in whatever prestigious journal is unlucky enough to peer-review that shit, thereby setting off a decade-long vaccines-cause-autism panic around the world. Seriously, it happened to The Lancet and that vacctivist guy discovermagazine]
- Good Morning America, you'll never have children! Women over 30 have already lost 90% of their eggs and will never be able to have children. Research not valid for all the women who do have kids after 30. [abcnews via theawl]
- Dads are paralyzed at the merest possibility of talking about sex with their children, says some book-flacking shrink on Babble. Dadwagon calls shenanigans. I say if you've got the balls to cite sex as a reason for chopping your kid's penis, you should have the balls to answer his questions about sex in an age-appropriate way. [babble via dadwagon]
- Parents think their kids aren't as fat as they really are. [eurekalert]
- Parents think their kids are way more allergic than they are. Also, bonus points for using the term "wheezers." [sciencedaily]
- Ambidextrousness causes language and school problems and ADHD, says a study funded by the Tie His Left Hand Behind His Back Foundation. [eurekalert]
- Pediatric "'poop' dermatitis"--seriously, that's what Johns Hopkins is calling it--is on the upswing, thanks to the hot new trends of harsh chemicals and wooden toilet seats. [eurekalert]
- A laughably preliminary study that is completely unrelated to any product in existence finds that pomegranate seed extract improves uterine contractions. But I'm sure your doula will have some POM ready just in case. [eurekalert]
- Babies' brains are wired to engage in "shared attention activities," such as staring at a computer screen with you. [sciencedaily]
- Turns out England's embarrassingly low breastfeeding rate is related to race and the number of kids a woman has, not socialist health care and Jordan, as I would have guessed. [sciencedaily]
The iPad vs. The iDad!
Sunday, January 31st, 2010An apple a day… gives the media lots to talk about. This week both the tech news and so called “mainstream media” was all abuzz about the long rumored, finally revealed, “tablet” device from Steve Jobs and his team at Apple. When all the dust settled, as expected, everyone’s attention turned to the “core” of the Apple iPad, and the heated comparisons and complaints began in force. While many have compared and contrasted the iPad to the Amazon Kindle, other tablet PC’s and Netbooks, there is one comparison that I haven’t seen, and one that is most suited for Dad-O-Matic readers: The iPad vs. the iDad!
The iDad: Why EVERY Home Should Have One!
There is a readily available interactive device that beats the pants off the iPad (and it even wears pants!) Yes, the iDad is the one device that every household with kids should have, and it has standard features that clearly put the iPad to shame, including cameras, multitasking, expandability, and even a significantly longer battery life. Yes, the iDad is the groundbreaking computing device that is clearly well positioned to take a bite out of the Apple iPad’s potential market.
Here is a simple comparison:
Which does your household need more, an iPad or an iDad?
Jeff Sass is the proud dad of ZEO (Zach, 21, Ethan, 19 and Olivia, 18). He is also a seasoned entertainment and technology exec and active social media enthusiast. You can see more of Jeff’s writing at Sassholes! and Social Networking Rehab.

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What I LOVE About Weekend Mornings
Sunday, January 31st, 2010What I LOVE about weekend mornings.
Kids get up at 6am and 7am, and I get up too. Then they bark orders like “where’s my juice” “the show’s over” “come quick, I see Zuzu Pets on TV” and my lovely wife is snuggled up warm and cozy in our bed getting her beauty rest. Well she better come downstairs looking like a freakin’ Victoria’s Secret model!!
Oops, sorry to cut this short, gotta go take the breakfast orders, then cook it and clean the kitchen! (ok, stop laughing, this is reality!”
And I do it with a BIG ASS SMILE!
GeekDad Puzzle Of The Week: My Amazing Comic Collection
Sunday, January 31st, 2010I have a huge bookcase. It’s stacked with trinkets and framed photos, Photoshop reference books and tons of O’Reilly guides. There are books I’ve read and ones I’m planning on getting to … one day. But the bulk of my bookcase is devoted to my true love: comics.
In the center, are five first editions from some of my most favorite comics, which I’ve had bound in different colors of soft, Corinthian leather. (What can I say? I’m obsessive.) Assigning each book a letter to identify them, the books are of two different heights, with three standing a little shorter - books B, C & E. Then, books A &D are taller than the others. These books are placed in the following order on my shelf: A, B, C, D, E. Need some more info?
1. Y: The Last Man is taller than the one in the red leather, which is next to and left of The Walking Dead.
2. The book in the black leather is farther left than Northlanders, but farther right than Preacher.
3. Punisher has green leather and is a different size than the book in blue leather, which is farther right than Punisher, but farther left than the book with brown leather.
With these hints, can you identify - from A to E - the color and title of each comic book? Email your solution by Friday at 10:00 pm EST for a chance to win a $50 gift certificate from ThinkGeek!
Jump Into the Arena: Battle Blasters for the iPhone
Sunday, January 31st, 2010The year is 3042, which of course means that there are death match tournaments. Fighters across the world strap blasters to their arms and shoot it out for fame and glory—or at least a high score on the Facebook Leaderboards.
Battle Blasters for the iPhone and iPod Touch is an arcade-style one-on-one shoot-out. There are six different unlockable characters, each with different speed, defense, power and abilities. The controls are pretty simple: swipe to the side to move, forward to shoot at the enemy, down to block, and tap your character to activate your special ability. The trick is learning the strengths and weaknesses of the various characters, and eliminating them as quickly as possible.
The campaign mode is reminiscent of old-school fighting games like Street Fighter: you pick a character, then battle your way through all the characters (fighting your doppelganger, of course), each with their own background setting. The last opponent is B.R.O.C., a massive robot who freezes you and then unleashes a hail of bullets. Each fight is best-out-of-three, and ends with the victor making some quip about the fight. (Some are more amusing than others, but with a limited repertoire they do get repetetive.) You also get very detailed stats about the fight for both you and your opponent: shots fired, accuracy, shots deflected, etc.
Quickplay lets you choose your player and opponent for practice. Multiplayer is interesting: since controlling your character only requires half of the screen, you can actually play against a friend on one iPhone. However, because it’s not a true top-down perspective, Player Two has to work upside down. (The biggest thing you’ll need to watch for is sharp fingernails!) I’ve been informed that Online Multiplayer is in the works for a future update.
You start the game with only Easy mode and one character, Jerett (that handsome bald guy in the blue armor). Beating the campaign unlocks a difficulty level and another character. So far I’ve beaten Easy, Medium and Hard, but Supreme has proven to be beyond my abilities; although it appears that B.R.O.C. will be the reward for doing so.
It really does feel somewhat like an homage to Street Fighter, with its colorful manga-esque in-game charcaters (and the more detailed portraits before and after the fights). However, unlike Street Fighter there isn’t any pretense of a plotline here. You have a blaster, you’re trying to shoot everyone else. Who needs a story?
It’s mostly kid-safe as long as you don’t mind the idea of people with guns where their arms should be. There’s no blood and gore, just glowing balls of light. But for kids who have grown up with first-person shooters, this may be a little too simple. It may in fact be more popular with people like me, nostalgic for old Sega games. (I did, after all, play it enough to beat three difficulty levels, and I’ll probably keep trying to beat Supreme.) The increased difficulty levels and unlocked characters add replay value, but it does start getting repetitive. I haven’t played much of the two-player version, but that would certainly add some interest to the opponent.
Battle Blasters is $2.99 at the Apple iTunes Store.
Wired: Fun old-school shooter game; two-player mode on one device; nice variation in character abilities; easy-to-learn controls.
Tired: May be too simple for your kids (but that means they won’t be stealing your iPhone to play it, right?); until online multiplayer is available, it might not keep replay value for long.
Disclosure: GeekDad was provided with a free download of Battle Blasters for review.

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